Day 1. Journaling the time between.

Pause. Take an inventory of your feelings today.

Today was not a traditional day that was conducive to a pause. Christmas landed on a Monday this year and I returned to work immediately for a regular Tuesday workday. At first I thought it didn’t feel right, maybe I needed the day off for a pause. But in reality I feel like going back to work was the structure that I needed after the chaos of the holiday.

Today, I feel tired but satisfied. The holiday had moments of chaos, but there were also moments of calm. My daughter is a little bit older now and doesn’t wake up at the crack of dawn to rush to open gifts. My partner and I were able to enjoy some coffee in the quiet while we waited for the children to wake up. We even exchanged gifts before the kids were awake. It was nice to be able to spend this quiet time connecting with each other. My daughter woke up first and she was excited but did not pressure to open gifts. She started on the small gifts in her stocking before her brother woke up, my partner and I were able to spend time with just her, and it was wonderful. My son is three and he was excited about the presents, but still a bit mystified. There was no mad rush to open the gifts, he simply worked on them (with assistance) one at a time and demonstrated an appreciation and excitement for each new item revealed. The morning, spent together with out four-person nuclear family was calm and joyful.

Christmas breakfast was an entirely different experience. Getting together with my parents, siblings, nieces, and nephews is chaos, but a happy buzzing kind of chaos. Once the kids were all through their gifts, the adults exchanged. I am thankful for this tradition because I love to demonstrate my love for my family through gifts and acts of service. I also feel overwhelmingly loved and taken care of in return.

We visit my partners family also. Reflecting on this makes me somewhat melancholy when I think of all of the different stops we would have on the holidays. Many of those family members have passed and traditions have changed. From 4-5 stops to just one. But I am grateful for the memories and for the continued opportunity to visit.

In the evening, my partner and I took time to go through some of the gifts and put them away. This left the living area relatively clean and clutter free. While this took some time, I think not having to come home to a cluttered living area allows for a feeling of peace, especially after a work day.

As I pause and reflect on my holiday and on my feelings, I realize that there is room for happiness and sadness. I can feel a range of feelings when I do not indulge the feelings of chaos and stress that could typically follow a holiday. I am holding space for the past and enjoying my present. I feel fulfilled and at peace today.

The Someday Afternoon Society and the Birthday Tea

Thrifted Tea Set and Gnome Decor
Cucumber Sandwiches and Finger Sandwiches
Cake pops and cream puffs
The Gnome Home Cake

Someday Afternoon Society and the Birthday Tea

The Someday Afternoon Society is one of my side projects. I often don’t focus on it but it is always hovering in the background of my mind. The Someday Afternoon Society is a promise that I make to myself to continue to engage in fun, fulfilling activities that I always said I would get to “someday”. Over the weekend, I had a Someday Afternoon Society meeting. I held a tea party for my sister’s birthday. The event was inspired by a recent St. Valentine’s Chocolate Tea and by my amazing and unique sister, of course.

​I was browsing around at the Salvation Army during the weeks before my sister’s birthday and I came across a beautiful, 14 karat gold tea set. It was not a completed tea set but it was one of the most complete sets I had ever come across. I am not much of a tea drinker, but I was captivated by the old set. My sister collects old tea cups and her birthday was on the horizonso I snapped a picture and sent it to her to see if she would like it. I almost left it there. At the last minute, she responded and the set was purchased. There were 6 tea cups, a creamer, a dozen saucers and 6 shallow bowls. The dishes are adorned with a small blue and red cabbage rose inside the cups and gilded edges with the perfect amount of crazing. Having just attended the Victorian tea at the Mary Stegmaier Mansion, an idea formed inside of me. I would hold a tea in honor of my sister’s birthday. All of the pieces came together at the perfect time to inspire this Birthday tea! 

My sister also noted this would be her “Year of the Gnome”. In honor of her current gnome infatuation, I looked for some gnome-y décor. The Dollar Tree and Dollar General provided some cute and inexpensive little gnome and fairy garden figurines. Those were used to decorate the table and cake. A few other décor items were purchased, white doilies from the dollar tree, a sparkly rose gold table runner and rainbow backdrop from Five Below, and Bigelow Tea, variety pack, from Amazon. I also borrowed a fancy ceramic tea pot from my younger sister. I used my vintage tatted table covering over a white table cloth and added candles and mini daffodils I had transplanted into a vintage planter to adorn the table. 

The menu included cucumber sandwiches and small ham finger sandwiches prepared with fresh Italian bread. Fresh grapes, pretzels, crackers and jam were also available for nibbling. My mother provided fresh cheese buns from Sanitary Bakery, one of the birthday girl’s favorite treats. I took a chance in making a cake and some cake pops. I used two funfetti cake mixes to make two small, round cakes and a larger cake for the cake pops. I also used simple syrup to sweeten the cake. To match the theme, I made a gnome home cake. The cake was decorated with chocolate melting candy “bark” and green frosting “moss”. Some of the cake pops were fashioned in to mushrooms to add to the fallen log gnome home cake. 

To make the event more special, we dressed up and wore hats. In addition to tea, I served mimosa’s with champagne for the adults and sparkling cider for our under-age attendees. It was small, intimate girl’s tea for my mother, sisters and nieces. We spent our time talking about memories and future plans while French café music floated around us. It is a fun and beautiful memory of time spent with people I love.

December Daily – Day 29

Reflect

The holiday was good for me. It was minimally stressful and I spent time with those I love. Now that we are a few days out I have had my pictures developed and have put many of the gifted items away. I love to look at the pictures. There is always something new to see. And walgreens had a $.09 print special!

There is a nice calm transition period before life really kicks back in to high gear. I hope that you had a nice holiday and that you are feeling positive heading in to the new year. If you are having a tough time, try writing a list of things that you are grateful for. I am grateful that you are here. Sending love and best wishes!

December Daily – Day 28

Transition

The transition between the new year and the passing year can be a time of reflection and hope. 2018 fades away and 2019 waits patiently to bring new possibilities. What has brought you joy in 2018? What do you wish for 2019?

2018 was a good year for me. It followed a particularly hard year and I am grateful. In 2018 I completed a year of my Master’s degree, visitied Disney with my family, and spent lots of time by the ocean. I feel closer to my family than ever. My daughter is growing and learning so fast it takes my breath away. I began a new career and continue to grow and change personally and professionally. 2018 was good to me.

2019 is shaping up to be intense. My last year of my Nurse Practitioner Program requires intense focus and I know it will be challenging but worth it. We are working on a major home project that will bring much change and excitement. 2019 will be busy and demanding. That is ok. Whatever challenges await me, I am ready. I know I have all the tools to get me through, most importantly the backing of my incredible family.